Do It Sober—How to Have the Sex You Want in Sobriety
Once the post sobriety hoopla has waned, a stark reality may have revealed itself in the bedroom:
What Does 40 Years of Sobriety Look Like?
Yep. That’s me in the photo. Sitting here a week before my 40th sober anniversary from quitting alcohol and all mind altering substances.
4 Tips to Live the Sober Life You Want
If you want to hit the bullseye, you first need to find the target. Then you can aim and fire that arrow. In recovery from alcoholism or any addiction, we do the same thing.
The Recovery Cycle and My Life-Long Love of Sober Living
If you have a serious problem with alcohol, you know the drill.
First, you think, or rather, fantasize, about the drink — a little too much.
Sober Rooms on Clubhouse and Zoom vs. In-Person Connection: A Brief Analysis
In-person sober meetings are cropping up as we ease into a post-pandemic climate, offering opportunities for direct 3-D contact, yet…
Sober rooms on Clubhouse and Zoom remain a large part of the sobriety cocktail mix, having many sober people transfixed.
4 Faces of the Liquor Lurker—Get to Know the Thing That Wants You Drunk
The Liquor Lurker never appears as some vague figure in silhouette, skulking around in a dark alley smelling of stale gin, stalking you. No. No.
The Opposite of Blackout Sex: How to Be a Sexual YOU Without Alcohol
When drinking, did you ever have sex in a blackout? Or, maybe you didn’t blackout, but drunk sex was your jam?
4 Things You Might Not Know About Alcoholics
You must know something about alcoholics and alcoholism, or you wouldn’t be reading this. Maybe you want more information to fill in the blanks.
Honoring Women in Alcoholics Anonymous: Past, Present and Future
March is Women’s History Month. This means it is a time to celebrate women’s contribution to culture, history and society. A prime time, then, to acknowledge the contributions of sober women in Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) that make our communities and world a better place.
Pandemic Do’s and Don’ts for Living Well in Recovery
The addict brain, roaming alone, is not a fun zone. Especially now.
Know the Difference Between Sex and Making Love in Recovery So You Can Do Both
Now that you are sober, do you know how to have sex and make love? For those of you not clear on the distinction: Sex is an animal event. It’s a purely physical thing. Making love, on the other loin, is a human experience.
Vital Connections
Part of the definition of vital is “necessary to the maintenance of life,” as in vital organs. For those who want sobriety, nothing is more important than…
Models of Integrity
Are you living in integrity today? And, if your answer is “yes,” my next question is: Who were your demonstrator models of integrity?
The High Road of Contrary Action
As recovering people, we walk through fear by taking Contrary Action. With this, faith increases in a Higher Power.
Contrary Action: Growing Spiritually
Contrary Action, in recovery terms, means taking positive action rather than resorting to habitual, self-destructive behaviors. It is the way to break patterns that keep recovering people stuck and discontent. Basically, Contrary Action is a way to grow spiritually.
Triggers: Avoiding Relapse During a Holiday Pandemic
Managing triggers during a normal holiday season can be troublesome. Add a pandemic, and triggers can appear in wacky 3-D proportions, where pulling the trigger seems to make good sense.
Recovery Rituals
Recovering people maintain a Recovery Focus; this means we aim our brains toward recovery (and what that might be). Even if the focus isn't exactly clear, we keep our eye on the prize of sober living. To gather more information about sobriety and how to live life in recovery, we then turn to Recovery Rituals.
A Compass for Connection
In recovery, the heart, mind and beyond all become areas of unlimited exploration and expansion. This change is a process that becomes a kind of transcendental journey. To some of you, this may sound like a lofty endeavor better suited to ancient yogis in the Himalayas; or, perhaps more akin to a mind-blowing psychedelic trip, but without hallucinogens.
A Recovery Focus During a Pandemic? Yes.
You may notice there is no exclamation point after "yes" in the title above. Even without a pandemic, not every day is punctuated with a fun exclamation point. You may feel off or even plain depressed on some days. If you find yourself on Bleak Street (which leads the way to Addiction Alley) it may take more work than usual to turn toward Recovery Road.
A Recovery Focus
If we want to hit the bullseye of the recovery we want, we will want to focus on it. This means keeping the eye on the prize. You might be thinking, What does this prize look like?